Breaking Free Of Cultural Beliefs & Embracing Your Authentic Spirituality

Your spirituality is such a HUGE part of your overall health and wellbeing. What a sensitive topic this is—and yet ever so profound. You must be strong enough to “fit out” and truly search to find the truth that resonates with you.

Religion can be very powerful and amazing. However, it can also be used as a weapon of destruction and judgment. Be careful with that. Always be so very careful with that. What a beautiful compass to God religion can be when the focus is only to love and be closer with the One who created us.

I love the way Dr. Shafali Tsabary says it in her book, The Awakened Family: A Revolution in Parenting

“We have seen that our beliefs stem from our culture and our families.”

Sadly, I’ve seen too many times how religion can attack, hurt, judge, hate, and used poorly for personal gain.

I’m thankful I opened my mind and heart. I’m thankful I opened my eyes. However scary it was to shift my perception of what I was “taught” to believe to what truly resonated within my soul, the fear was worth it. Pushing beyond the barriers of my mental comfort zone and daring to think different. Allowing myself to feel and see and swallow new ideas, new points of view—simply another way that feels more right to me. Ultimately bringing me closer to God.

A relationship I’ve searched for in many churches (and religions) and yet it was something I found on my own. Perhaps once guided by childhood teachings and tribal views, but now it’s deeper, more intimate, and the sole focus is love.

I choose to see love instead of this.

Religion…something that can start so many problems and wars simply because two people don’t agree on the exact same thing. From as long as I can remember this has been an enormous issue with my family. To try to come to a point where I can choose peace over being right just so that there can be a better relationship, but when the other person won’t do the same and continually keeps pressing their beliefs…well, it shatters the possibility of a better relationship.

I’ve studied the chakras and absolutely love Caroline Myss’ book, Anatomy of the Spirit: The Seven Stages of Power and Healing. I can truly say that the trilogy chakras (1, 2 & 3) are oftentimes where I feel it most within my body, this inner tug-of-war between what I feel and what I’m told I need to believe. Such an unwelcome feeling of illness that tightens its grip deep inside me…its power fueled by this “religious war” that I seem to be in with my family. This “dis-ease” is in my other chakras too…a mental and emotional battleground. I’m attacked. I’m made to feel less than. I’m viewed as “lost” simply because I’m different—because I think different and I believe different.

In her book, Caroline shares this impactful statement,

“Because we are essentially spiritual creatures, our spiritual needs are as crucial to our well-being as our physical needs, maybe even more so.”

And I love how she further explains,

“The truths contained in the scriptural teachings of the different religious traditions are meant to unite us, not separate us.”

I cannot express in words just how much that impacts me—in such a profound way.

Caroline has dedicated much of her lifetime to embracing her intuitive gift and trying to help others with it. Another thing she shares in Anatomy Of The Spirit is:

“Again and again the sacred texts tell us that our life’s purpose is to understand and develop the power of our spirit, power that is vital to our mental and physical well-being. Abusing this power depletes our spirit and siphons the life-force itself out of our physical bodies. Because Divine energy is inherent in our biological system, every thought that crosses our minds, every belief we nurture, every memory to which we cling translates into a positive or negative command to our bodies and spirits. It is magnificent to see ourselves through this lens, but it is also intimidating, because no part of our lives or thoughts is powerless or even private. We are biological creations of Divine design. Once this truth becomes a part of your conscious mind, you can never again live an ordinary life.”

Really, this book was life-changing for me…and stoked a curiosity deep down inside my soul, sparking an ember of hope with my spirituality back to life. That ember remains alight today, and I’m so thankful for it. A couple other quotes I want to share from her book (and I highly recommend you read her book fully) are,

“Detach from all values that support the belief that success in life means achieving certain goals. Instead, view a successful life as a process of achieving self-control and the capacity to work through the challenges life brings you. Visualize success as an energy force rather than a physical one.”

“By releasing our emotional pain, by letting go of our need to know why things have happened as they have, we reach a state of tranquillity. In order to achieve that inner peace, however, we have to embrace the healing energy of forgiveness and release our lesser need for human, self-determined justice.”

But the way I see it is the less you know the more passionately you know it, and the most beautiful thing that you can do for another person is to be open-minded to them.
To show them respect and compassion…for no two people are the exact same and never will be. We’re not robots to be controlled. We’re not meant to play mind games of judgment and bullying.

I pray almost everyday about this.

I’ve been practicing meditation daily. Thanks to Gabby Bernstien’s May Cause Miracles: A 40-Day Guidebook of Subtle Shifts for Radical Change and Unlimited Happiness I was able to take one day at a time learning and growing, and forcing myself to sit in stillness until I was able to sit for 5 solid minutes without peeking at the timer. Truth-be-told, I started my meditation practice for just one minute a day and slowly worked my way up to five. The days I get two practice sessions in I’m over the moon excited and happy dancing.

For me, learning how to meditate was super hard. The stillness at first was uncomfortable and my mind never shuts up. Thanks to the visual guides that Gabby assists you with in some of her meditations, I was able to form images in my mind to quiet down some of that pesky brain chatter.

Another KEY BOOK that has helped me greatly with my spiritual walk (and guided me step-by-step through visual meditation) is Caroline Myss’
Entering the Castle: Finding the Inner Path to God and Your Soul’s Purpose.

Someday soon, I’ll increase my meditation time to six minutes, and then seven…and so on.

I’m also A Course In Miracles student and really loved how Marianne Williamson taught about it in her amazingly written A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”.

Of course, it’s impossible for me not to mention the beloved Dr. Wayne Dyer (who is with God now) and many of his teachings that he shared in his books— Wishes Fulfilled: Mastering the Art of Manifesting being the one that most noticeably pushed me beyond the comfort zone of tribal beliefs. Not surprisingly, Dr. Wayne Dyer was also a student of A Course In Miracles.

It’s a personal goal of mine to read every day…something that can teach me more about my own spirituality…something that can help me grow. To challenge myself. To reach higher than I thought I ever could. To love…everyone.

Love everyone. Isn’t that what we’re supposed to do?

I don’t know of a single Bible that doesn’t say that—no matter what religion. Unless it’s something radically taken out of context.

God is love and if you don’t act from a place of love then you’re not acting in a way God would want you to. You’re coming from a place of ego, a place of fear, a place of your own selfish beliefs that you expect everyone else to believe simply because you do. Because you’re right and everyone else is wrong.

I hope that those that live trapped within a box of their belief system could simply open their mind and study something new and at least see from the other side, someone else’s point of view. A different viewpoint from them. One that makes you uncomfortable and pushes you beyond your personally created walls.

Anyone who’s never traveled or looked at another religious belief, I challenge you to explore it. Get outside of yourself and seriously consider it. Not with a mind that you’re going to change but with an open mind that you want to truly see where the other person is coming from. And you want to see it with love not condemnation. You want to look at them as if what they feel and what they think truly matters, and that they’re not lost. They’re just curious and different than you.

If you have health issues, I highly suggest the chakra studies. Caroline Myss book I talked about above—Anatomy Of The Spirit—is expertly written and points out each chakra and what part(s) of the body its connected to (and what illnesses are associated with each one). It links symptoms and issues to every single organ in the body and it’s quite amazing and astonishing, especially if you’re open-minded when you study it.

I don’t (yet) know exactly how to mend relationships when I choose peace over being right but I’m still attacked and insulted.
It’s an inner struggle to fight the defensiveness—trying to stay silent and not get reactive.

Everything is a spiritual assignment; everyone we encounter is a spiritual assignment. Every single thing. Every single person.

Why would I want to surround myself with people who constantly want to belittle and attack me? I don’t. That’s the answer—I don’t! I want to be around people who Lift Me Up and inspire me. I want to learn and I want to teach and I want to grow. I want to be the best I can be. I want to help as many other people as I can. And if I’m not in a position to help someone then it’s time to move on so that I can fully help someone else.

No longer can I be held down by the painful burdens of trying to make someone love me for who I am.

Religion. The thing that can start so many problems and wars simply because two people cannot see eye to eye. And worse, perhaps both sides want to use their sacred beliefs for control. For power. Empowering their EGO and “Edging God Out” by doing so.

So for me, I don’t find myself religious at all. I’m a spiritual being having a human experience. And I’m on a quest for the truth. A journey to love and share love everywhere I Am. Everywhere I go.

If this feels familiar to you…just know you’re not alone. It’s ok to think outside of the cultural box you were raised in. It’s ok to challenge what you’ve been taught. It’s ok to learn new things and explore various teachings from all kinds of walks of life. And if in the end, you do find a religion that resonates with you, that’s totally ok too. Perhaps I’ll find one someday as well. One that’s all about LOVE, and GRATITUDE, and JOY, and Forgiveness, and PEACE, and ABUNDANCE…
…And NOT about hate, judgment, control, or power.

I choose to Love, Be Love, share Love…I love You.

What are your thoughts on religion? Spirituality? What sets your soul on fire and motivates every thought and action inside you?

PS: Have you ever watched Super Soul Sunday on the OWN network? It’s some of the most MINDFUL TV I’ve ever watched—and it’s helped me learn and grow in so many ways. A personal favorite is when Oprah interviews Michael Beckwith. Here’s a link to one of those interviews. I pray it helps you the way it has helped me.

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